The Hustle of Healing: Are You Actually Growing or Just Performing?

Let’s talk about something that’s been on my spirit lately — the hustle of healing. Yes, I said hustle… because some of y’all (and I've done it too in the past!) are out here performing personal growth like it’s a part-time job with no PTO.

If your “healing to-do list” is longer than your grocery list, this one’s for you, boo.

Now listen — this isn’t an anti-growth rant. Obviously, I’m a coach and I host a whole-ass podcast called Choose To Become, so growth is kinda my thing. But there’s a sneaky little trap a lot of us fall into — where “doing the work” becomes just another form of avoidance.

Here’s how it usually looks: You’re downloading the meditations. You’ve bookmarked 42 Instagram posts about shadow work. You’re “in therapy.” You’ve got 3 self-help books open at once. But you’re still not telling yourself the truth. You’re still running from your own stillness.

We live in a world obsessed with doing, even in the name of healing. But the real medicine?

It’s not in the reels or the routines. It’s in the pause. The silence. The uncomfortable, messy, deeply honest moments where you actually sit with yourself and ask: What am I avoiding under the mask of growth?

I had to ask myself this not too long ago. My answer? Drinking. For years, I called it “unwinding.” But really, it was numbing. It wasn’t until almost three years ago that I got real with myself, and getting honest about it changed my life.

That’s the work.

It’s not sexy. It’s not always Instagrammable. And it damn sure won’t win you any algorithm points. But true healing? It’s quiet as hell. It happens in the dark corners. In the journal pages no one sees. In the decisions you make when no one’s clapping for you.

So I want to ask you a hard question (with all the love in the world): Are you using growth as a mask for avoidance?

Are you collecting tools and buzzwords so you sound healed, while you keep running from your truth?

Only you can answer that...

But if something in you is whispering yes, I’ve got something that might help:✨ The Becoming Blueprint Journal — it’s a free 5-day journal experience to help you reconnect with yourself, drop the performance, and start telling the truth (the kind that actually transforms you).

Listen, I’m not here to call you out — I’m here to call you in. Into your own power. Into your own wisdom. Into the version of you that doesn’t need another book or class to know she’s worthy, healing, and becoming — because she already is.

So yes, get the coaching. Take the course. But don’t forget the real work: Sit down. Get quiet. Tell the truth. And trust that everything you need is already inside of you.

Sending you love. For real. Now go be still and stop hustling your healing.💖